My wife and I have gone through all three of these books during our engagement and the first 1 1/2 years of our marriage. Looking back on them we’re so thankful that we read these early on in our marriage and can grow and apply them for the rest of our lives. This is not an exhaustive list, just what we did and how it helped us. Ok, so, you ready to find out what these are?
- Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, by Dr. Kevin Leman. If this title makes you blush, then you definitely need to read it. Whether you’ve saved sex for marriage or it’s nothing new to you, this book will help prepare you for your new life. It talks about subjects everyone has questions about, but never once does it get vulgar.This book should definitely be read while you’re engaged. The best part is you won’t be overwhelmed as an engaged couple because he prescribes that you only read 3-4 particular chapters before you’re wedding night, and the rest for afterwards.
- Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Once you’re married, jump right into this one. The premise: God commands in Ephesians 5:33 that husbands should love their wives, and wives should respect their husbands. This speaks to the strengths of how women and men communicate and interact.It was really encouraging and relieving to know that when my wife and I disagree about something it’s probably more about seeing things differently than actually disagreeing.
- The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman. The basic idea of this teaching is that we all have different ways of showing and receiving love, and these are broken down into the 5 love languages. For example, growing up gift-giving was a big deal in my family. So I was baffled when I gave a gift to my wife it didn’t “rock her world.” But through this book I learned that acts of kindness speaks much more loudly to her. If you learn to do things in a way that says “I love you” that your spouse appreciates, it will definitely strengthen your marriage.
What books have helped you in your marriage? What did you think of these books?
Note: I don’t receive anything for promoting these books. I’m just sharing something that’s been helpful to me, to help you.