When you try to work as a team, sooner or later your differences will arise. Different styles of doing things, different ways of talking with people, even different ideas of when something should get done. So how do can you handle these differences without blowing up at each other?
People try to overcome this in different ways.
Some try to ignore it. They turn the other cheek. And then again…and again…and again. They think that being the more mature person means taking all the hits. But in reality, they’re burying their frustration until it explodes in their face and they lash out at someone. Real maturity means confronting and resolving the issue, not ignoring it.
Some try to overpower it. They think “If I just act tougher, if I just yell louder, if I just press harder, they’ll see it my way.” That might be good for getting your way, but not only is it childish, it’s bullying and flat out wrong.
There’s really one main thing teams need to succeed.
In order for your team to succeed, you need to be able to respect one another.
The Bible has a key theme for its believers: unity. We all know that you will fail if you are divided and fractured. But how do you keep that unity going? Respecting one another. Ephesians 5:21 says “submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (ESV) Then Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
Now I’m not perfect at this, but a couple years ago this principle struck me (unfortunately the hard way) a couple years ago, and here’s 3 ways that I try to put respect for others into action.
1) Time Treasuring the time of others is a sure-fire way to show respect to others. When I need to email others information I choose when to send it based on what time they will need it by. When we have a meeting, I try to respect their time by being on time.
2) Words When it comes to assigning tasks to others, I try to ask them if they would be willing to do it as opposed to telling them to do it. Some people might get scared of that idea, but I’ve found that people are more responsive when their work feels desired and appreciated by you. Be kind to others and create an environment of helping each other, not just following rules.
3) Little Acts Pick up a print order from the copier. Grab a supply that someone needs. Refill the Keurig rack. Offer to make a delivery if you’re going to the Post Office. Any little acts can go a long way to show that you value them
You may have the same goals, but in order to really thrive as a team you need to think of the other person. Imagine if everyone in your organization thought of everyone else first, and themselves second.
What’s a way you show respect to others? Share your creative ideas down below.